Self Defense - How to Prevent an Assault

Here are some facts every parent of a college age child should know.

--One out of four women will be sexually assaulted on a college campus.

--One out of eight women will be raped while in college.

--84% of women who were raped knew their assa5B4ilant.

--57% of rapes occur on a date.

--75% of male students and 55% of female students involved in date rape had been drinking or using drugs.

These are the reported figures. There is a lot of data suggesting that most rapes go unreported. One study showed that only 5 % of victims of rape or attempted rape report it to college police.

But EVERY woman is a potential target of these perverted assailants. An assault occurs every 29 seconds. Most sexual assaults can be avoided by using some common sense and being armed with knowledge of what to avoid and armed with some non lethal self defense weapons.

Let's look at some things you should know to help prevent an assault .....

LOOK. Look around you and be aware of your surroundings-hiding places, people following you, etc. If confronted by an assailant look him straight in the eye so he knows for sure that you will remember what he looks like in a police lineup.

YELL. There are two things about a shout. One it attracts the attention of others. Second it deters assailants. They want an easy target not someone who is going to resist.

SHOW. If you are carrying a non lethal self defense weapon SHOW IT. Sometimes the sound of a discharging stun gun is enough to frighten them off. Try using a combination of SHOW and YELL. Try something like "back off or you'll get 900,000 volts."

PAIN. Learn where some key A20points for pain are and how to inflict as much pain as you can quickly. Eye gouges, pinch or bite under the arm or the upper inner thigh, or the groin areas are all sensitive and subject o maximum amounts of pain. A sharp blow across the bridge of an assailant's nose will stop him dead in his tracks. You want just enough time to escape. Consider using your elbow if you can-it is the strongest point on your body.

INSTINCTS. Always trust your INSTINCTS. Women are usually more insightful than men-use it to your advantage.

CARRY. Always carry some non lethal self defense weapons. A stun gun, taser, pepper spray, a telescopic baton are good examples. Each if used will afford you enough time to escape and get help.

These tips can help you prevent an assault on yourself or any woman you know. Used wisely they may save a life-maybe yours.

Please Note that even though pepper spray is legal in all 50 states, some states and cities have restrictions. Some states and cities have restrictions on stun guns. Check with your local police department. Literally thousands of police departments carry and use pepper spray and stun guns. Why wouldn't you?

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Self Improvement With Affirmations

Affirmations are very powerful tools that can be key in bringing about change in your life, whether it is in the form of personal change or bringing new situations into your life. Self-affirmations are healing, optimistic messages that you give to yourself to counter your negative messages. Affirmations resemble visualization with mental images but words are used instead. Words you say out loud, read or write each day that will help you internalize what you want to be and what you hope to achieve. Affirmations are self improvement prophecies that when visualized and believed in will come true.

Just repeating the words is not enough. Affirmations are not magical sentences that are said just a few times and then create miracles. For affirmations to produce results, they should be repeated often with feeling and conviction.

Affirmations are said starting with the words: I am, I can, and I will. An I am affirmation is a statement of who you are such as I am intelligent or I am creative. An I can affirmation is a statement of your potential and power to change such as I can be strong or I can be a winner. An I will affirmation is a statement of positive change that you want to accomplish such as I will control my temper or I will handle financial matters wisely today. Affirmations should always be stated in a positive manner. An excellent way to use affirmations is to right down 30 of them, each on a separate index card. Each day of the month focus on one affirmation. Keep the card with you displayed in your sight and read it out loud during the day.

Affirmations help you to improve yourself because by nature humans are compelled to follow what they believe in. What motivates you is your belief in the end result. If you continually tell yourself something, your inner self will make it become true. Affirmations strengthen ambition, create new solutions and activate the subconscious mind in order to make your affirmation come true. The affirmations you repeat will become a positive habit that will result in self improvement of your mind, body and soul.

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Seven Powerful Steps to Increase Self-Confidence

We come into this world with total self-confidence/self-esteem. An infant has self-confidence/self-esteem that their cries will get them what they need--food, diaper change, cuddling, communication, soothing, etc. If the child's needs are readily met and the child senses they are accepted unconditionally they flourish. If their basic needs for survival and emotional sustanence are only met sporadically or poorly their sense of self-confidence/self-esteem begins to deteriorate. If the child continues to experience depravation they begin to view themselves as not being good enough to be cared for or cared about. Their birth-right to self-confidence/self-esteem has been compromised. Thus, as an adult those who have experience any form of depravation, they need to re-establish what is their birth-right: Self-confidence/Self-esteem.

1.) Ask yourself, "What would be the worst outcome?" We tend to place excess importance on potential problems-a.k.a.-Worrying ahead syndrome. We have an infinite amount of energy so let's apply it to creating extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals INSTEAD5B4 of wasting that energy worrying. Take action on what you have control over and minimize risks for what you don't. Then invest your energy wisely.

2.) Disengage the nagging, negative internal critical voice. That negative internal critical voice can keep anyone stuck. To disengage the internal voice, imagine a volume control and lower the volume. Or simply change the internal voice to the Disney Channel. Do you think you could take Mickey Mouse or Donald Duck seriously if they were criticizing you? The point is to disengage the critical voice by altering the way it nags at you. If you hear your own voice or a critical parent voice nagging you, it will paralyze you. If you hear a funny voice, you laugh and maybe hear the irony of your negative internal critic and continue onward.

3.) When doing something for the first time, imagine that you have already done it. Close your eyes, then, vividly imagine you succeeding at what you are planning to do for the first time. The mind does NOT know the difference between something VIVIDLY imagined and something real. Make it vivid by involving all 5 senses.

4.) Find someone who is already confident in the area of expertise you need and watch how they do it. Model as many of their behaviors, attitudes, values, and beliefs for the context you want to be confident in. How can you do this? Talk with them if you have access to them. If you don't have access to them, get as much exposur5B4e to them as you can. This could be talking to people who know the person and/or buying their products if they have some.

5.) Act "As-if." Act as-if you already have the habit/behavior you desire. If you were confident, "How would you be feeling? What would you be doing? How would you be speaking? What would you be thinking? What would you tell yourself-self-talk?" By asking yourself these questions, you compel yourself to answer them by going into a confident state. You will then be acting "As-if" you are confident. As you continue to act "As-If" you will notice you are acting less and less as your behavior becomes a habit. Within 30 to 45 days you'll develop it into a natural habit/behavior.

6.) Project yourself into the future and ask if what you're faced with is as onerous as you fear. This might be a bit morbid and yet this works tremendously well. Imagine yourself on your deathbed looking back over your life. You are surrounded by your friends and family. You're reviewing your life. Is what you're faced with now even going to pop up? That's highly unlikely. Keeping things in proper perspective really diminishes fear.

7.) Remember that you lose out on 100% of the opportunities that you never go for. Nothing ventured-Nothing gained. To get what you want, ask for it. If you consistently ask people for what you want, you will get it. As you think about your goals and what you are striving for, how effective would it 1C7Fbe for you to believe that several people out there want to and would be willing to help you if you only ask? People will help because they know they might need help in the future and you might be a source. Whether that is true or not in the "real world" is irrelevant. The belief is empowering, I invite you to adopt it.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD as an inspirational leader empowers people to see life's issues as an opportunity for personal and spiritual growth. Author, If I'd Only Known...Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention, she is noted for her pioneering work in verbal, physical, sexual abuse prevention and recovery. http://www.gen-assist.com/book.asp

J Oswald Sanders

Relationship Myths - Eight Examples That will Doom Your Relationship to Failure

Relationship myths are everywhere. There are more than I can count. The fairy tales that we believe create all sorts of problems in our real life relationships. Let's look at eight of the many relationship myths that will doom your relationship to failure:

1. All you need is love

This one is nice to believe. Love conquers all. Reality check: love is an essential ingredient in your relationship, but it is just one of many. A good relationship needs other ingredients, such as respect, appreciation, and the ability to negotiate when in conflict, to name a few.

2. If my partner loved me, s/he would _____________.

This statement is one of conditional love. It's also quite manipulative. Essentially, it's saying this: "If you loved me, you would do what I want; you would even know what I want without my having to tell you." Wow, that's quite a heavy expectation from someone you love.

Does it work the other way around (If I loved my partner, I would ______________)? Not usually. Be careful. If you expect your partner to love you unconditionally, yet you have all these conditions for you to give love your partner, you are creating an unequal, unfair, and deeply unhappy relationship.

3. Love means never having to say you're sorry

Yes, the movie "Love Story" gave us that line. If you don't say "I'm sorry" when you've done something offensive, what does that say about you? Are you too insecure to admit to causing offense? Are you telling your partner you are so above other mortals that you don't need to apologize?

Are you so angry at your partner that you believe s/he deserves what you did? I sincerely hope not. If this is a habit of yours, examine your beliefs about apologizing. They may need revising. Otherwise, you may be headed for loneliness.

4. If the sex is good, the relationship will be good too

Too many people consider a passionate sex life to mean they are compatible with their partner. They confuse passion with love. If that's all you've got, it's not enough to sustain a committed relationship.

5. If I don't say what I think/feel, I can't be happy in my relationship

What are we, in grade school? "If I don't get to express myself, I'm going to pout." I've had thoughts I would not want people to know about; we all have. Some thoughts, if voiced, can permanently damage a relationship.

I'm not telling you to stuff all of your feelings and never say what's on your mind. I'm asking you to be aware of how your words can impact your loved one. Ask yourself, "If my partner told me what I'm about to say, how would I feel?" Think first before you speak, then be tactful.

6. My partner is supposed to make me happy

Some people work really hard to make their partner happy, believing it is actually in their power to create happiness in another person. Others believe that their partner holds their happiness in the palm of his/her hands.

Sometimes people who believe this myth spend lots of time complaining to their partner and nagging their partner. Danger, danger! Creating happiness is your responsibility, not your partner's. You can do this when you work together to build a respectful, appreciative relationship.

7. My relationship would be great, if only my partner would change

Maybe so, but your partner's change is not in your control. You can threaten your partner, further damaging your relationship, or you can take responsibility for the only person whose behavior you can change: you. That's a big enough job, believe me!

8. A relationship should be 50/50

If you got 50% of the questions right on an exam, you would receive a failing grade. Is that acceptable? This statement becomes a scorekeeping issue. I'll wash half of the dishes or mow half of the lawn. I'll do my part, but only if he does his share. Again, control your own behavior and do your part. That's 100% of your part, not a failing grade of 50%.

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The Core of the Soul - The Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Soulful Love Part Two

Gifting & Receiving Absoulute Love

For some of the souls here on this earth dimension, we are able to gift Absoulute Love what we perceive as easily to other souls. Spirit says that there are moments in which we perceive we are gifting Absoulute Love but it is in the form of the disguise of conditions, or expectations of how we think other souls should be. This form of gifting is that of conditional love, whereby if the soul acts or is being within how we think they should be within our perception, then we gift that soul love. If they are being something other than what we deem in our perception that they are "supposed to" be, then we attempt to provide the illusion of "withholding" our love.

For the souls whom have remembered, embraced, and treasured this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, then this Abso5B4ulute Love is an constant flowing resonance that they choose to BE in, a way of BEing, a way of LIFE. Receiving and giving are One in the co~creative forces of the Universe and of LIFE. It is from this sense of 6ratitude that we are in Ah! Or Awe! with, for, and of LIFE when we are resonating in a resonance of Absoulute Love. When we are within this ambiance of Absoulute Love that it is seamlessly, effortlessly flowing from within our soul to other souls to the Universe and then comes again to us in a continuous circle or cycle of Absoulute Love.

For the souls whom live in the perception of an axiom that Absoulute Love was free from ever being shown to them in their lives here on this earth dimension, these souls choose The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" of choosing the illusion of "withholding" their Absoulute Love. I should know this phenomenon quite well, as I once chose to BE this soul. The illusionary reason that I chose to reside within the illusion of "withholding" gifting Absoulute Love was because I felt that I was unworthy of receiving it, and if I was unworthy of receiving it, then why should anyone else receive it, especially from me. This was what I believed within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" when I chose to live in the illusion that I was separate, disconnected from every soul, from everything.

As Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, there was a moment i5B4n my Life Experience here where I 'decided' or cut off all possibility of Absoulute Love in my LIFE. As a part of the game of LIFE, I 'decided' while resonating within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole", that I was 'not good enough or worthy enough' to receive Absoulute Love. For me, this occurred when I was six earth dimensional years old. When I was six earth dimensional years old, I was a great speller of the earth dimension's English language and had won the spelling bee at school. I came home with a certificate saying I won and my mother was very proud of me and happy and she said "You should show this to your father when he gets home".

Now as an adult, spiritually speaking, I recognize in this moment that my father is the type of person that when he comes home, his form of meditation to wind down from what he considers to be a 'long day at work' is to sit down in front of the T.V. in his favorite chair, read the mail, and just veg out, as his form of meditation. But as a six year old, whom had been on this earth dimension for such as short amount of what we call as earth dimension time, I was free from knowing and understanding this wisdom, as coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from, we are free from this concept as all is inclusively One sense of inner wisdom and this is who I was choosing to BE as a six year old having been fr5B4ee from discovering and embracing completely the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul. So when I came running into the room just after dad had come home that earth dimensional night and was in his chair looking at the mail with his meditative focus on that, and me waving my certificate around, he was free from even ever acknowledging me. It was then and there in that moment that I realized the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate, that said I was 'not good enough' ~ not good enough to receive his Absoulute Love, and therefore, I must not be worthy of receiving any Absoulute Love. From that moment on I set out in my life to "prove" that I was 'not good enough'.

Therefore, when events would occur to bring forth a Soul Remembering, such as the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love through events such as kids picking on me at school or this soul would not play with me or be my friend, rather than choose to remember, embrace, and treasure the Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience, I would experience the thoughtenergy to myself of (and some moments in an Ego Fit Rabbit Hole tantrum out loud) "SEE! Look at what THEY did, SEE I am not good enough, see they will not be my friend or they pick on me etc..." Later in life it was with Aaron who was then my boyfriend, when we were physically separated when I became pregnant with our son Chris and he was in the illusion 5B4of believing that he was free from being ready to be a father, again rather than remember, embrace, and treasure, this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, it was "See I am not good enough, he left me".

Thus, from the moment of being that six year old, I began to prove over and over again within The Ego Self of The Soul perceiving myself as separate from in Absoulute Love and from All That Is, that I was 'not good enough'. For many earth dimensional years I became quite skilled at playing the role of the illusionary victim and seeking out other souls to bring with me into The Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole that I was choosing to create. In fact, I became so good at it that I had a friendship with a soul at one moment in my LIFE in which, our sole or Soul Purpose for being friends, our Soul Purpose for being brought together was for us to spend money and to sit while our children played together and have Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole fits about our perception of how horrible our husbands were and how horrible life is and so on! In essence, for many earth dimension years I was living my life as a six year old!

It was when I went through a weekend spiritual seminar that began the five year earth dimension period of what we call here as the initiation of Ascended Mastery or Spiritual Oneness, in which I would choose to remember continuously many Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience that would gif5B4t to me the rememberings of the soul for who I am BEing in this moment.

The Illusion That We Are Separate From Absoulute Love

Spirit shares with us that we somehow fear and believe that we are "unworthy enough" to receive Absoulute Love and it is this axiom within the soul that we seem to choose to call our own, as we hold onto this axiom as if it is ours that we are unconscious to that keeps us from knowing, experiencing, gifting, and receiving Absoulute Love which is why events occur in our LIFE, to awaken and re~awaken us to remember the Soul Rememberings that we have chosen to forget as a part of playing this game of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience).

It is within the believing in this axiom of "I am unworthy of Absoulute Love" Spirit imparts, that has us create a perceptional illusion of proving over and over again that we are unworthy. So just as who I once was choosing unconsciously to BE, we seek out relationships and events to prove that illusion of The Ego Self of the Soul that says that we are indeed separate from every soul, separate from All That Is, and unworthy of Absoulute Love. It is that we somehow believe that we are something other than always, in All Ways connected that causes us to experience the illusionary perceived e~motional disconnection, which is what then causes the illusional e~motional discontent or dis~ease, a being free from BEing at ease within, to occur.

The Infinitely Sp5B4iritual Light BEing shares with us that the reason that we experience the e~motion at moments like we are encased in a shell in our LIFE is because we feel that somehow we are disconnected from other souls and disconnected from All That Is, from the Universal Source that we came from and emanate from, which creates an illusion that we have a disconnection within us, with our soul. It is just that mere illusion that we are somehow other than The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from and that we are disconnected and unloved, that keeps us experiencing the e~motion that we are something other than connected. And it is our choice to stay in the illusion of disconnection that keeps us from being connected, from being All That Is or to step into and BE what we already and always, In All Ways, are ~ Spiritual Oneness and Absoulute Love.

BEing Absoulute Love

How do we shift this? How do we come to a resonance of Absoulute Love? As Spirit invited us earlier, they share that it is through 6ratitude that we are Absoulute Love. However, in being in 6ratitude within an illusionary 'seeking out' Absoulute Love in this way, Spirit says we tend to look outward for Absoulute Love rather than inward. Thus in this shifting into a resonance of Absoulute Love, the shift comes from within. It is seeing ourselves as worthy, valuable, Absoulutely Loveable (Loveable meani5B4ng able to be Absoulute Love) within our soul. We are worthy of relationships that genuinely honor the light of who we are. We deserve all of the wonder and the awe of All That Is in the Universal for this Life Experience.

Why do we deserve this? Why does Absoulute Love exist? Because this is the very essence of who we and emanate from. Because we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and we are The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, therefore we are free from BEing anything other than Absoulute Love. This Absoulute Love for our soul is free from resonating within a resonance of The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate and in Axiom with that Absoulute Love of our soul is somehow selfish or conceited. It comes from an inner wisdom in knowing that we are all Divine BEings coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and is of, for, with, in and BEing Divine Absoulute Love.

How can we BE this? The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing brings forth the wisdom that it is within the enlightenment that shows us that since we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resi5B4des within Absoulute Love and we are The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, then how can we be anything other than already and always, In All Ways, connected to Spirit and receiving their guidance clearly, and how can we be anything other than Absoulute Love? Spirit invites us to BE that of who we are, BE Absoulute Love ~ BE ever presently seeing the beauty and the Absoulute Love within us and let it shine from within us just like a beacon of light from a lighthouse.

Appreciate how wonderfully beautiful you are, as you are an expression of the Divine light. Breathe this in, take a deep breath in and feel this message fill your soul, your spirit. Feel the beautiful light of who you are as it flows from just about a foot above the diadem or crown of the head, all the way through the physical body to the feet, and then all the way to your heart center which is where the soul resides and then encircling your aura. Truly know with a deep sense of inner knowing, inner wisdom and truly feel with the feeling that comes from the very depth of your soul, getting in touch with every part of your soul remembering that of what your soul already does know and is within infinite all inclusive wisdom of but has chosen to forget in coming here to play this game called LIFE ~ that free from any shred of doubt, free from any hesitation, that you are a radiant 5B4Beacon of Infinite Light and Absoulute Love, an expression of Divine Absoulute Love, Infinite Light, and Beauty, and that you are All That Is.

Spirit invites us to nurture the spiritual child within us, the spiritual child of our soul. They say that within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love that the reason that we may experience the illusion of having trouble embracing our own inner spiritual child with Absoulute Love is that we in The Ego Self of the Soul create the illusion of fear, that we somehow fear the bliss that comes from BEing Absoulute Love. That we fear that we can BE, gift, and receive Absoulute Love and that if we are to take that one step, just that one step into Spiritual Oneness, stepping into and gifting that Absoulute Love to our inner child of our soul, that our light will come beaming through, and that it is the Infinitely Spiritual Soul BEing of Light that we are that we are illusionally fearful of.

Within The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving ourselves as separate our deepest fear is free from being that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are ambrosial beyond measure. It is our light, rather than The Ego Self of the Soul that we perceive that frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, All wise and all knowing, talented, and magnificent?" Actually, why are we free from BEing so? We are an inner child of the Spiritual Oneness of All That Is. We will b5B4e free from serving and gifting the Universe, all within the Universe, and all within this earth dimension by playing the game of BEing small.

Enlightened we are free from living in the illusion of shrinking our spirit, shrinking our soul, so that other souls will be free from experiencing the e~motion of BEing insecure around us .We are all meant to shine, just as children do. We are born to co~create the awe~inspiring beauty of Absoulute Love, of All That Is that is within us, simply because this is who we are. This is why we chose to incarnate here ~ to experience, to gift, to receive, to remember that of the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love. Spirit or Divine Consciousness dwells within our soul. It is the essence of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) and we always, in All Ways, have an unbroken lifeline to the Universal Source of which we emanate from, regardless of how small or dim that connection we may perceive it within The Ego Self of the Soul as separate to illusionarily be.

Would we ask a flower to be something other than a flower? A flower is a flower because this is what is, a flower. We are free from being able to ask it or make it be a tree or a mountain. And if we understand this, then we can understand that who we are is an Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all. And who are we to ask or pretend to5B4 be something that we are free from being? This is that of the hypnocrite that Spirit write of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, that of attempting to be something we are free from being. Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all is free from being just within some of us; it is within every soul. And as we let our own light shine, we consciously gift other souls the gift of choosing to BE the same. As we are liberated from our own illusionary fears blending The Ego Self of the Soul into the Whole of our Soul, into Spiritual Oneness, our presence automatically liberates other souls with whom we touch, move, and inspire by and with our inner light.

It is when we choose the choice to know within our inner wisdom that we are worthy of receiving Absoulute Love that then the channel is opened and we see, feel, and BE Absoulute Love within the infinite forms as it reveals itself to us, as the illusion that we are disconnected and unable to receive has then fallen away, leaving us with the connection to Spirit to All That Is, to the pure joy and bliss of Absoulute Love.

Spirit invites us then to choose that we are good enough and we are worthy to receive their guidance and to receive Absoulute Love simply because we have taken a view of all other possibilities and choose then that we are worthy of spirits guidance and Absoulute L5B4ove, because we are All That Is, because we come from All That Is. And if we come from All That Is, then how can we be anything less than worthy of receiving Absoulute Love from Spirit and from all the plethora of forms it comes in. We are worthy of Absoulute Love because we are Absoulute Love.Absoulute Love is inviting you to experience all that this Absoulute Love has in store for you. Do you accept love's invitation? We hope you do.

Gifting, Receiving, and BEing Absoulute Love calls us to open our heart and LIFE to all the gifts waiting for us that this Absoulute Love has to gift. It gifts us with the treasure of Infinite Soulful Bliss and Spiritual Oneness. Thank you for receiving the Absoulute Love of the Universe so generously in this moment. Welcome to the heart of the soul of Absoulute Love. Life is an experience, free from being about arriving at a destination. So too, is Absoulute Love a journey, free from being about arriving at destination, as we already are Absoulute Love.

The Shift So Deep

I can remember one of the more recent axiomal shifts that occurred for me about four earth dimension years ago now. There is a man by the name of Steve Rother, and he channels Spirit in what he calls The Group. I was listening to one of his channels and on came this song. A woman began singing this song and I felt as though every word that this woman was singing was meant for me. The words to her song touched me so deep5B4ly that I began to sob. It was the confirmation for me that the inner child in me was healing and that I indeed was free from being alone and that I am loved and I am Absoulute Love. It was the initiation that I would later come to know through Spirit into what we call here on this earth dimension as Ascended Mastery which I completed this circle of in the Spring of 2005.

The money that I would manifest to purchase the CD was free from being available to me at that moment as I had been free from choosing to manifest it. However, I was gifted with the messages from Spirit that I would know when I would be meant to have this CD and to manifest the funds to bring it forth into my LIFE. So I carried the copy of this song's sample on my computer with me for the last several earth dimensional years now and have referred to it often as a reminder of its beautiful words and of the messages that I received within it and from it. Then it began playing in my soul over and over until I heard it within and was free from needing the CD. It was amazing then and yet another confirmation from Spirit when Aaron had said this very thing about a favorite music CD of his. I had borrowed this CD to place it on my computer so I could listen to it too (as I like the CD as well) and so that he could keep the CD in his car with him while I would still have it on my computer to listen to. I had been busy and had forgotten to place it on my computer, thus th5B4e CD sat in our room for several days. When I said to Aaron that I had forgotten to do this yet and did he just wish to have the CD back anyhow that I could do it at a later moment, to which he said, "It is ok Hon, whenever you get it back to me is fine, as I hear the song within me, within my soul always so if the CD is elsewhere, I still have it within".

It was just recently when the healing of the inner child through Spiritual Imagination and Inspiration that Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Inspiration, which became the topic of our ongoing spiritual circle that we have weekly in our spiritual center that I remembered Spirits guidance that I would know when I was meant to purchase the CD of this song that I so fell in Absoulute Love with a few earth dimensional years before that had shifted me and the axioms of who I believed I was, that it was indeed the moment to obtain this and share it with the circle. Hence, I did purchase the CD then and the money was instantly there for me to and we utilized them in our spiritual circle. The healing, the beauty, and the shift in axiomal alignment that transpired that evening from just playing this one song was the most amazing transformation I have ever experience aside from my own. This woman's spiritual gift of singing of these words transcends anything here on this earth dimension, and I thank her from the bottom of my soul for the amazing gift5B4 she shares with all of us souls in assisting us to R.E.S.T. (Remember, Embrace, and Soulfully Treasure) within the light of who we are. She truly inspires me. Her name is Shaina Noll, and the song that she sings that I am referring to is her rendition of the song entitled "How Can Anyone?"

This song is such as simple song, so few in its words, but its meaning is so inspirational that it touches, it moves, and it inspires all who listen to it. It brings a healing of the inner child and also a resonance of AbSOULute soulful Oneness Love from the very core of the soul within you. I invite you to go to Shaina's website to hear the words to this beautiful song. Any soul who would like to listen to the song sample of this song "How Can Anyone?" or any of her other beautiful music, can listen by visiting her website: http://www.shainanoll.com/songsamplepages/songsamples.html and scroll down about half way down the page to the Songs for the Inner Child CD song samples on the left side and click on the "How Could Anyone?" title. Shaina's CD Songs for the Inner Child, that "How Can Anyone?" is on, as well as her other CD's can be discovered for purchase as well on this webpage or by visiting her homepage at http://www.shainanoll.com

Spirit says that what keeps the creative energies of axiomal alignment for expanded consciousness, increased awareness, and spiritual oneness alive, is an appreciative openness to receive followed by som5A4e soulful response to this receiving. As long as there is a continued openness to receiving all of the gifts that the Universe has to offer us, the gifts keep flowing, or we could say that the gifts keep gifting. They say that some moments it takes a powerful event such as the one I just shared here with you, or what we perceive on this earth dimension to be the illusion of something "bad" such as a loss of a home, or a soul whom transitions back home to the Spiritual Universe for us to get to that point where we are touched, moved, and inspired into the shifting of our axioms. Spirit refers to this as a spiritual 2 x 4. Spirit shares that these events when seen through the eyes of the soul, through the eyes of Spiritual Oneness, are just simply gifts that are gifted to us to remember the light of whom we are.

The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing also refers to the Prayer of St. Francis in which it is said that it is within gifting that we receive. Therefore, Spirit asks us what thoughtenergy, what axioms are we gifting to our soul and to the experience of this LIFE that we are choosing? In what areas of our LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) are we choosing in each moment to shift into axiomal alignment with our soul? What step will we take to open the door to Infinite Possibilities? The Infinite Circle begins with us. It is our choice. Do you choose AbSOULUte soulful Love always, in all ways?

Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD, is a universally celebrated author, speaker, and spiritual mentor within the resonance of Spiritual Oneness. She is currently the author of two books, "Life Long Learning ~ Transforming Learning; Discovering Learning Through Living Life in Unlimitless Possibilities" and "Stepping Into Spiritual Oneness ~ Spiritual Rememberings of the Soul Through Life Experience"; and has appeared on various radio shows and within articles of international publications. She is a Spiritual Medium, Visionary, and has been gifted by Spirit as an Ascended Master. As a clear conduit of the Divine, Patti channels the wisdom of Spirit within Multi~Dimensional ways to inspire each soul to develop their own inner voice of the soul of who they are and brings the gifts of Infinite Healing, AbSOULute Love or Soulful Love, Light, and Peace to all whom she inspires. Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD is the Director of The Diamondlight International Spiritual Oneness Center and also creator of the OneSoul REALationship Series. For more information about her please visit her website at http://www.diamondlady.net

Buddhism

Reincarnation is a Promise of Unconditional Love

Reincarnation is the grandest aspect of unconditional love, and the least understood as part of our natural life cycle.

Because many people do not understand what unconditional love really is, it is no wonder that they do not understand or recognize the value of reincarnation. Conditional love would say that you have one turn on the holodeck. Unconditional love would say that you have as many turns as your feel necessary to experience all that you desire.

When we love our children unconditionally, we do not try to change them, but to guide them. We give them as many turns as necessary unconditionally to make it on their own. A good parent recognizes the strengths of their children, and allows freedom for them to explore there own potential, while still maintaining their love for them. Mistakes, errors, screw-ups are all part of the learning process and a parent doesn't withdraw their love or threaten because the child wonders off the path or makes a mistake.

Unconditional love is unconditional freedom-freedom to make as many mistakes as is necessary to accomplish a desired goal. Reincarnation is the ultimate freedom that our creator has given us-to come back as many times as is necessary to accomplish a desired experience. No love could be greater than that. It is a birthright that is known by the soul before it incarnates into the physical world.

In the awareness of the possibility of reincarnation, one is given unlimited freedom and limitless opportunity to fully explore the physical world, and what it has to offer. In the awareness of this freedom, comes confidence that one will achieve his desires on a grander scale.

In the awareness of my own physical experience, I know that I will probably wake up tomorrow and carry on with my life and what I had planned for today, next week, and next year. There is continuity in what I desire from one day to another because my focus is on a limited physical life that may last up to 100 years or longer. However we are often taught or believe that we must focus on the first 65 years. Often little thought is given to the next 35 or so years, because we don't consider the5B4m productive, or at the very least we believe them to be our declining years, and a prelude to death or non-life.

We often miss the importance of these years as a prelude to another life-a preparation for a transformation to a higher level of existence in a more evolved world-the one we already live in. What we are doing here is experiencing physical life and all that it has to offer, but we are also preparing the world and our children to create the next world that we will experience upon our return.

Recently I finished reading the book "The Indigo Children." I was first alarmed by the realization of their existence and what they were bringing into this world now. Their characteristics are rebellious to current conditions and a world that is about to transform. Old ideas die hard, and transformation brings chaos and death to ideologies that have brought us this far.

For a brief moment I was feeling uncomfortable about these children-the worlds new stewards. Then I realized that they would not be stewards of my old world, but of a new world I have helped create, and that I will be returning to later. I will become one of these children upon my return. I will be one of their indigo children in one or more generations of physical life. I must trust them to take care of this world in my absence.

In awareness and focus of a physical existence that spans more than one lifetime, I can see the significance of reincarnat5B4ion. I can also see how important it is not to give up on what I am creating or experiencing now. I can see how vital it is to have long term goals, aspirations, and concerns for the world and its future circumstances.

Many of us do not consider these important aspects of physical life and their significance to our own future.

I have said myself in short sightedness-that I am glad I am leaving this world behind-that I will not have to deal with a future I do not understand. I have also felt like many that I do not understand the new generation and their indifference to what I know of this world, and have experienced.

For many, there is some comfort in a belief that they will die and go somewhere else-that they will not return, and they will not have to deal with what they have left behind. However this would be like starting a new book and finishing it after the first chapter. It is very short sighted and an unenlightened philosophy.

Reincarnation is a very real option for most of us-it is also a choice, a choice of freedom that comes from unconditional love. Most of us will return, and carry-on with our lives in a new body, that is equipped for the new world we have been building generation after generation. This is long term thinking that is consistent with the natural tendency for life to always move towards a higher level of experience.

I welcome these new children (our future leaders). I look forward t5B4o understanding them and to giving them guidance and opportunity. I am excited at the prospect of being one of their children, and being guided by them into a future world that will be different than the one I have known and left behind.

I believe one of the greatest hindrances to our own evolution has been this misconception-that we will not have to deal with the circumstances of the present world, after we have passed on-that it is all over. This short-term thinking has left our children a world that they must abandon or clean up. Many of us have disowned this world, thinking that we have not been part of its evolution-nothing could be farther from the truth. Everyone that has been born into this world, has contributed to its circumstances and evolution. You are responsible whether you accept it or not. You have participated in its technology, its pollution, and its degradation. You have contributed to the necessity for a new human to evolve to take over for you. You have created your new parents and a new world. You have left your example, your history and your insight for others-and a promise of a reincarnated you, to follow. Death is not an escape-it is another opportunity to repeat your mistakes or move away from them.

When seen from this perspective, life brings on a whole new expanded meaning. It brings greater opportunities for more abundance, happiness, and a brighter future. It leaves behind fear as we begin to ma5B4ke friends with it-in the realization that it is within our own personal power to create the world of our dreams. We will not be punished for our mistakes; we will experience the results of them, and will have the freedom to move away from them-at will.

This life is not final, and you will have as many turns as you wish. Your present incarnation is not the first stage, nor is it the last and there will be as many as you desire. You are not doomed, nor are you a victim-you are a creator. It is within your own personal power to create the world which suites you. It is within your own thoughts to experience the present world as Heaven, Hell, Nirvana, Stovokor (if you're Klingon) or anything else that your imagination is capable of.

You will return to this world and experience it as anything that you can imagine. Where-ever you think you are going, that is what you will experience. But, it will not be another place-it will be the place that you have created-here! It is the experience of the physical world that changes, not the physical world itself. Matter is formed and reformed in a manner that reflects your thoughts, your imagination.

Reincarnation comes from the greatest love of all-unconditional love. Unconditional love is unconditional freedom to experience all that you desire-unconditionally!

Just as I have created these pages, I know I will have a chance to change them-make any corrections that I feel necessar591y. I will do this in a near future (over breakfast), that I will create. Because I know that I will have this opportunity-I will not panic, I will not be desperate, and I will not react from fear.

It doesn't matter whether you believe in reincarnation or not. What you believe now, is what you will experience when you die. However, because you have freedom to choose, why would you not choose to experience something that works within your own best light? Why would you choose something that does not raise you to the next level of awareness-something that is better than what you are experiencing now?

Reincarnation is just such a choice. It is our birthright, our inheritance, our guarantee of continuance. Life cannot be created nor destroyed. Life is all there is, and it continuous.

Roy E. Klienwachter is a resident of British Columbia, Canada. A published author, a student of NLP, ordained minister, New Age Light Worker, Teacher and Phenomenologist. Roy's books and articles are thought provoking, and designed to empower your imagination, and take you to places you would never have thought about.

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Teaching For A Better Life

Love, Anger and Forgiveness - How To Let Go And Be Emotionally Free Once And For All

Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites,16D3 and in many ways they are. You may be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be fully understood before you can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free.

It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, you just don't want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to understand.

Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same

Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:

-Judgment

-The "one-up" position

-Dishonoring to yourself

When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation or plight, you are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.

Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.

Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:

-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior.

-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results.

Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:

-Power

-Release

-Letting go

-No more victim position

-Operating in a container of love

Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for yourself and/or another person.

Understanding Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here are some common misconceptions:

-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled

-It is possible to be without anger completely

-It is wrong to be angry

-To be angry means to be out of control

-Anger is the same thing as aggression

-When a person is angry that means they are not safe to be around

These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger. Healthy anger is:

-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed

-A protective emotion

-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes

-Fuel for effective action

Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy, appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's the bottom line on healthy anger:

Healthy anger fuels effective action!

Understanding True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that? Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind, and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally, your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about forgiveness:

-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind

-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete

-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven

-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoeryou dont have that kind of power

-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountableeveryone is accountable whether you forgive or not

-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay

-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive

-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds

-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger

-Forgiveness is for you

-Forgiveness is good for your health

-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your breathing is deep and easywhile you visualize the wrong5A8doer and say, "I accept you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind and body."

Your body will tell you if the forgiveness is complete.

Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom

-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions

-Do not accept blame for anything

-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them

-Do not blame anybody for anything

Here are some thoughts to consider about love:

-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions

-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature

-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence

-Conditional love is not really loveit is more about control

-The only real love is unconditional love

-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you unconditionally

-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love

Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.

The greatest of these is love.

William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker and president of the Institute for Personal and Professional Development. As the originator of theGoodfinding audio program, newsletter and website, he has also been on the faculty of the Wellness Program at Cooper Aerobics Center for fifteen years. He has 34 years of experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships.

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Ray Kroc

Your Belief Systems Are In Control

The following is an exercise, or process, you can use to explore the depths of your being. It is an exercise to discover your belief systems-what you believe to be true about yourself, about God, about life.

All of your actions are rooted in your belief system. Although most of your beliefs were formed as a child, they are in fact a choice. If you do not like what you believe, you can change it. As an adult, you have full control of your beliefs. In order to change, however, you must take a long, scrutinizing look at your particular belief structure.

Probe closely into your childhood beliefs. Look for the strong messages you received as a child. You may not yet realize that these strong messages usually constitute a majo5B4r portion of your core belief structure and hold an incredible amount of power. Write these beliefs, or messages, down on paper in a list form. Keep the sentences short for easy reading. Again, you are searching for the core or foundation of a belief, not the philosophy behind it. After you have completed your list, write down what you would rather believe, what you would rather have heard as a child. This is the time to be co-creative and to use your imagination to construct a list that is ideal. Create the perfect God in your mind and on the paper-a belief system that will support you, love you, and work for you, not against you. There are no rules, except that you do this exercise in its entirety.

The following is a composite of the common belief statements I hear from my clients:

Common Beliefs about God from Childhood

1. God is external, lives in heaven, and is separate from myself.

2. God is male and has male characteristics.

3. God has lots of rules. I had better not break a rule or I will be punished.

4. God does not always give me what I want. I have to deserve it, and if I mess up, He will hold it against me.

5. I can only pray for the will of God. If my prayer does not line up with His will, my prayer will not be answered.

6. I am selfish if I pray for myself and God does not like it when I do. Besides, I am too unworthy to pray for myself.

7. God punishes me and5B4 withholds my prayers to teach me a lesson. I deserve hard lessons.

8. God gets disappointed in my behavior.

9. God has human feelings such as anger, disappointment, revenge, and judgment.

10. There is only one way to God and heaven, and that is through Christianity.

11. All things in the Bible are true in the literal sense.

12. I need to be respectful of God. If I do not pray "right," my prayers will not be answered.

13. God watches over me with a critical eye, seeing all the things I do. He waits for me to mess up, so that he can teach me another lesson.

14. It will be difficult to enter heaven if I do not keep God first and follow the rules.

15. I deserve to have it tough in life because I have done lots of bad things.

16. Mommy and Daddy say that God will not like me if I lie, cheat, steal, or do not brush my teeth.

17. If I do not believe just the way I am taught, I will burn in hell.

18. God is strict, but it is because I am undeserving and he is trying to teach me to be good.

19. Even though I am struggling financially, it is wrong to pray for money.

20. If I have money, I should give most of it away in order to show how grateful I am.

21. God disapproves of sex and shakes his head in disgust at me.

22. I do not think God likes me much. He does not show up very often.

Any person living with the above beliefs is going to have tremendous5B4 fear in his or her life. The whole system is based on judgment, fear, punishment, and not being good enough. It is structured on conditional love with strings attached to behavior. It would be difficult to find happiness under this system. The constant pressure from judgment alone would cause dis-ease to settle in the body. These beliefs stifle personal growth, imagination, and creativity. There is no foundation for self-worth to grow and develop.

As you review your list and discern the nature of your current belief system, remember that it represents choice. If it does not reflect what you desire, discard it. Let your imagination go and create a new belief system. Make a new list of what such a belief system could look like. Perhaps, it would look like this:

An Example of an Ideal Belief System

1. My God lives within me. I am part of God and God is part of me.

2. God has no gender, but is the essence of all things.

3. There is no right or wrong, good or bad, no punishment. There is a karmic balancing, consistent and founded in divine unconditional love.

4. I have complete choice in my behaviors without being judged.

5. God is love-unconditional-and this love is the basis of the universe. God loves all.

6. There is no right or wrong way to believe. All religions lead to the center, which is God.

7. Heaven is not a place that you go to; it is an attitude of the divine. Live and exper5B4ience heaven in the now.

8. God is available to me in all circumstances. I am never without God. God is part of me.

9. I have full responsibility, as a co-creator with God, for all that I AM and all that is around me.

10. I am honored and revered in the universe.

11. I am a spirit having an earth experience. It is one of many experiences in the universe. My soul's purpose on earth is to experience emotion.

12. I choose my life experience, like an actor choosing a script in a play. I choose everything about my living conditions for the divine purpose of my soul's unfolding.

13. All of my prayers are answered. My job as co-creator is to be clear with my intention so that my prayers can manifest.

14. There is abundance for all in the universe. If I have abundance in my life, it does not mean that someone else must go without.

15. I believe in miracles!

16. I am part of an exquisite whole. I am related to all life. I belong.

17. Angels can fly because they take things lightly.

A person with the above belief system is going to have a completely different outlook on life. Self-worth, self-empowerment, choice, unconditional love, honor, balance, and freedom will be reflected throughout the life of this individual. What one believes, becomes.

Jan promotes self-healing3F5, empowerment, better communities, a healthy world and conducts workshops in shamanism & journeying. Her book, Becoming Yourself is at http://www.janengelssmith.com . Jans a Licensed Counselor. Shes done over two thousand soul retrievals. She is the founder of LightSong School of Shamanic Studies, a Chemical Dependency Specialist, and Marriage Therapist. Shes a water pourer for sweat lodge, a minister, a Reiki Master.

Spiritual Chefology Experience

Spirituality Information Question - Is God the Boss?

We, as human beings, have the choice between two paradigms about God. The first paradigm says that God is the boss and we must adhere to his rules or suffer the consequences. The second paradigm says that the energy and intelligence we call God is part of everything in existence, seen and unseen, so we are all part of God and, as such, are equal to God. God is not our boss but rather is the observer of our experiences without judgment.

Most of the humans on the planet today have been conditioned to believe in the paradigm that says God is the boss. This theology is ingrained in us as huma5B4ns through thousands of years but it is still just a paradigm, a way of viewing things, a perspective.

It is the paradigm of fear-based love. Paradigms do shift and change. This particular paradigm is based on a sponsoring thought that is rooted in the idea of a fearful, untrustworthy and vengeful God. We have taken the perceived actions of this monarch, God, and employed them in our human experience.

We have told ourselves that if this fear-based love is good enough for God, then it is good enough for us. Use of these fear-based thoughts about love and life, has condemned us to lives of conditional love, never to realize the magnificence that resides within us. Fear-sponsored thoughts keep us chained to the idea that we are separate and less than God and we have only two choices in life.

We can choose to go for the gusto and accumulate and have power over our perceived domain, or we can give up on fulfilling our desires and take what life gives us until we are released from this hell on earth. We can hope that God will take pity on us and let us into heaven, but if he doesn't then we are ready to accept the alternative.

Most of us choose one or the other of these fear-based realities. It does not matter which one you choose, because neither is designed to bring you peace. They are both never-ending struggles. One struggle is designed to accumulate and gather external power, and the other struggle is to journey t5B4hrough life without hope or passion, all the while envying the things that you don't possess.

Inner peace and peace on earth are not a part of this paradigm. Nor can they ever be, because these concepts cannot be manifested within the paradigm of fear. Fear is the energy that hoards, harms, angers, runs and hides, contracts, accumulates, holds power over, covets, kills, steals, is untrustworthy, and not truthful. It is impossible to develop a system of individual peace, much less world peace, when you rely on these values.

But, as I mentioned earlier, this is only a paradigm. It is not written in stone, but it is heavily entrenched. In fact, except for small pockets of civilized tribes (tribes most people would define as primitive) can we find people who have a more spiritual way of conducting their lives.

It is interesting and amazing that most of the industrialized world calls itself civilized. These "civilized" societies pillage smaller and weaker countries to exploit their natural resources and cheap labor. These are the same societies that will go to war and kill not only their perceived enemies, but also women and children, calling it collateral damage. These societies force people to believe the same religious philosophies they subscribe to under threat of death. These we call "civilized" societies?

Whereas what we often term as "primitive" may be a society of people who honor the land they live on, and wo5B4uld not think of destroying the environment that sustains them. These people honor all members of their tribe and take care of their needs, from birth to death. These are tribes where love is given and shared openly and without shame.

These tribes do not know what rape and murder are. Avarice and greed are foreign concepts. These tribes love the land and its creatures. Nature is revered and blessed as the source and provider of all things necessary to sustain them.

The God of these societies is a God who gives love unconditionally. These societies do not require governing bodies that legislate morality for them. They live by simple rules of honesty, responsibility and awareness.

This system of societal behavior is a paradigm too. This is a way of thinking and a perspective that is not fear-based. This we call "primitive?" Maybe the "civilized" societies of the world should take a lesson from the primitive societies and try living from a base of love rather than fear.

The difference between the civilized society that we live in and the primitive societies that are isolated from us is that we have been taught to live our lives in fear. It stems from a theology rooted in the idea of a fearful, vengeful and untrustworthy God. The monarch God of the paradigm of separation.

Even though we want to love this God in a way that is more magnificent than how we love ourselves, we hold back because the very God we wish 4C6to love is a God that we fear. So we have developed this fear-based love of God. That perspective of love has carried over into the way we view love in the physical world.

The question you must ask yourself is, "Does the idea of God as the boss serve me?"

Richard Blackstone is an award winning author and international speaker on Love, Oneness & Creation. Journey into discovery of Self by reading this FREE report; "The 3 Simple Immutable Laws of the Universe" at: http://www.NutsandBoltsSpirituality.com

What Is The Meaning Of Life

Vedic Astrology Horoscope - Sun in Cancer - Venus - Moon - More on Saturn

The Sun has entered Cancer in the Sidereal zodiac, bringing a strong tendency to nurture and emotionally protect our loved ones. When the Sun goes through Cancer the quality of divine motherhood is awakened in each of us at least that is the potential. Suddenly theres a renewed sensitivity to all of us as children. There is a great possibility for all to lay down their weapons and sympathize with their enemies for the next couple of weeks.

Cancer is the sign of sensitivity, compassion and motherhood. It is ruled by the moon, the planet of selfless love, nurturing and peace. This is different than the type of love we have in relationships which are transactional in nature. Relationship love is between two equals, two grown-ups. In relationship love, each person has to hold up their part of the bargain, whatever that bargain is. Every relationship has different boundaries that are negotiated and, however strange those boundaries may look to outsiders, as long as the two partnered agree with the terms, and honor them - theres usually smooth sailing.

This is what make5B4s the relationship house (seventh house) a secondary business / career house. We use the same negotiating skills at our job that we use in our romantic relationship - after all, people are people. The larger issue in relationships is our ability to compromise and satisfy our desires as well as accommodate another persons. Those who are able to yield their desires with dignity do well in relationships. But this takes an authentic desire to please others combined with an equally authentic intuition which knows where to draw the line and can draw that line without anger or excessive ego.

However, the capacity to play fair and negotiate and uphold common boundaries, etc. will be very damaging in a parent / child relationship. Once a parent starts demanding the child treat them as an equal, at least when theyre young, there can be great harm done. Of course, once the child grows up into teenage years and beyond the relationship starts to develop and mature. But still, the parent must always put the needed the child ahead of their own. Fortunately, nature makes this easy once the child begins to grow up and develop their own personality, many immature parents stop serving the child / selflessly loving the child - and start to a great deal of harm.

Negotiating proper relationship boundaries are related to Venus and powerfully expressed through the Cardinal sign she rules, Libra - the sign of relationships. And, as was sai5B4d, the Moon rules selfless parental love that only knows how to give. The mother loves the child no matter what the child does. But this shows the inherent struggle between Venus and the moon - the inherent struggle between selfless love and conditional love.

Its very easy to mix these two things up in our mind. When relationships become dominated by a selfless, parental type of love is only a matter of time before it starts to feel like abuse for one and co-managing for the other. There has to be accountability first, only then can romantic love become selfless, devoted love. Similarly if the parent / child love is too transactional, with a parent constantly insisting upon the immature mind of the child to be accountable for their emotional mistakes, as we would expect from our partner, much trouble arises also. Without the paradigm of selfless love in the parent/child relationship, the parent will not be able to insist upon accountability without the child feeling attacked.

This is an important issue at this time with Venus about to go retrograde into the sign of Cancer. In Vedic astrology both the moon and the Sun are enemies of Venus. This enmity is expressed in different ways. The influence of the moon on Venus (including occupying the sign of Cancer) is to confuse the transactional nature and expectation of adult relationship boundaries with the utterly selfless, caretaking, maternal nature of the moon. The infl5ACuence of the Sun on Venus (including occupying the sign of Leo) is to insist upon a passionate, fiery and romantically accountable nature.

These themes will play out in the upcoming Venus retrograde cycle discussed last week in this newsletter.

The upcoming Venus retrograde cycle will mirror the recent Saturn retrograde cycle and also foreshadow next years Mars/Ketu conjunction at 28 Cancer. There is another very important factor that must be kept in mind relative to this Saturn / Venus relationship.

Sam Geppi has over 20 years of Vedic Study and experience. He is a Hatha Yoga instructor and certified Vedic Astrologer and Teacher through the ACVA (level 2) as well as author of "The Ascendant". http://vedicastrologycenter.net - Newsletters and Readings http://freedailyhoroscope.org - Astrology Podcasts

Catharism

Love? Sex? Oh! That is Just 5% of What Love Might Represent! What About the Other 95%? [part 2 of 3]

[4] Spouses' love

This is a conditional love, a selfish love that doesn't or won't allow a third party. Is it good or bad? Can you imagine a someone who loves all and practises polygamy? That is not correct too. For goodness sake, think twice..... which do you prefer, monogamy or polygamy? I can predict chaos, disputes, jealousy, envy, selfishness .... if one allows multiple partners. Maybe I am conservative, maybe you are not, but to prevent is better than cure. Since this love is expressed by sex physically, don't distort sexology which should be sacred as well between husband and wife. Sex is part of our life as of food and drinks. It is a physiological and emotional need shared between loved ones.

Don't be a pervert. Be principle-centered. Ying and Yang balancing emotional acts will bond a loving couple whereby an imbalance will upset them. Lust and uncontrolled desire are negative forms of human love. To possess another person's body or mind, be it physically or mentally is something unkind. At least, love is about sharing and caring. It is our culture, our attitude towards how one looks at sex. Too much explicit and wrong concepts of sex from different medias have influenced our society and causing an alarming degrading of moral values among us. Let's pray that this negative will come to a stop. It all starts from us, as parents to set a good example.

Don't get yourself involved, be wise.... for the sake of all... for the sake that love or sex between spouses is sacred as should be, and meant to be a positive and healthy practise.... It is an attachment, sometimes a headache when there is a misunderstanding. Think twice, there is always this law of love. Don't be entangled in the webs of miseries, lies, desperate cries and eventually these marriages will soon die off

[5] Friends' loves

Friendships among friends are 5B4genuine relationships. Friendship is earned through trials and errors, proven with time, cemented by trust and forbearance. Mutual respect is one important trait between friends. 'Be friendly but not too familiar' is also a phrase that I always emphasize. As married friends we know our limits as not to go too personal.

A friend is ever so kind and understanding. A friend is ever so caring and considerate. A friend is ever interested in our work, but not interrupting. A friend is ever so concerning, be we literate or illiterate.

A friend's smile will be so enlightening. A friend's smile will be so encouraging. A friend's smile will be so touching. A friend's smile will be so warming.

Whoever and wherever that friend he is. Whatever and whichever that friend he is. He is always concerned and looks into our needs. Really a friend in need and a friend indeed.

He is that somebody who won't meddle up things. He is that somebody who won't burden you with things. He is that somebody who tells you not to worry about small things. He is that somebody who tells you not to do bad things.

He is that somebody who wipes our sweat and says. You need a rest. He is that somebody who wipes our tears and says. It is just God's test. He is that somebody who comforts our fears and says. Relax and stand it. He is that somebody who sacrifices his years and says. It is worth it!

A friend knows when to t577alk and when not to. A friend knows when to hug us and when not to. A friend knows our weaknesses, yet never complaining. A friend knows our heart's desires and always stimulating. A friend knows our silent, hidden, suppressed feeling. A friend knows our rate of heart beat and sick feeling. A friend knows our silly habits and favorite dishes. A friend knows our silly fantasies and wishes.

Yet never laughing at us in any way. Yet never looking down upon us either way. Yet never blaming us for who we are. A true friend indeed is a blessed, rare gift from GOD

to be continued....

Lucy Wong is a health and nutrition consultant. Her interest in health related issues include the development of mental health. She is also keen in sharing Multiple Qs, she is also an educator and has written many articles on this subject in her personal column under "alternative health" in http://submitarticles.biz Read more about mental health articles in her personal column and discover the secrets of maintaining good mental health. Read more from her personal blog too.

Spiritual Or Physical Illusion

Love, Anger and Forgiveness - How To Let Go And Be Emotionally Free Once And For All

Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites,16D3 and in many ways they are. You may be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be fully understood before you can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free.

It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, you just don't want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to understand.

Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same

Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:

-Judgment

-The "one-up" position

-Dishonoring to yourself

When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation or plight, you are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.

Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.

Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:

-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior.

-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results.

Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:

-Power

-Release

-Letting go

-No more victim position

-Operating in a container of love

Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for yourself and/or another person.

Understanding Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here are some common misconceptions:

-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled

-It is possible to be without anger completely

-It is wrong to be angry

-To be angry means to be out of control

-Anger is the same thing as aggression

-When a person is angry that means they are not safe to be around

These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger. Healthy anger is:

-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed

-A protective emotion

-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes

-Fuel for effective action

Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy, appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's the bottom line on healthy anger:

Healthy anger fuels effective action!

Understanding True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that? Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind, and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally, your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about forgiveness:

-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind

-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete

-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven

-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoeryou dont have that kind of power

-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountableeveryone is accountable whether you forgive or not

-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay

-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive

-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds

-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger

-Forgiveness is for you

-Forgiveness is good for your health

-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your breathing is deep and easywhile you visualize the wrong5A8doer and say, "I accept you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind and body."

Your body will tell you if the forgiveness is complete.

Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom

-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions

-Do not accept blame for anything

-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them

-Do not blame anybody for anything

Here are some thoughts to consider about love:

-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions

-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature

-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence

-Conditional love is not really loveit is more about control

-The only real love is unconditional love

-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you unconditionally

-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love

Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.

The greatest of these is love.

William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker and president of the Institute for Personal and Professional Development. As the originator of theGoodfinding audio program, newsletter and website, he has also been on the faculty of the Wellness Program at Cooper Aerobics Center for fifteen years. He has 34 years of experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships.

Get free information, watch videos and purchase books, CDs and downloads at http://www.Goodfinding.com.

Increase Your Energy

The Next Election Will Be About Fear

Everything built up will fall, and all that falls will rise again - this could be called the cycle of existence. When things are about to fall in this cycle, there are premonitions that wash through our hearts, and the premonitions have definite signs:

We lose our Generosity:

We become increasingly out for ourselves, because we are afraid. Earlier in our history, we were fearless; we would give the shirt off our back to a neighbor in need even if it was the last shirt we had. We really cared for each other. But now, we can't count on help from our neighbors. It all began many years ago when we allowed the homeless to fend for themselves, and we guiltily looked the other way. We didn't even realize that we were becoming fearful.

"Others are my main concern. When I notice something of mine, I steal it and give it to others."

- Shantideva

We lose our Principles:

We can no longer define our principles. Whatever is required to meet our goals seems to be our morals now. And our goals...? To get as much as we can before someone else does. It all stems from fear, and we will vote for the one who promises to allay the greatest number of our fears, whether those fears are economic, religious, or political. We look to our leaders to do this for us, because we no longer trust ourselves to make a stand for what we believe. We can't even grasp right from wrong anymore; it all gets distorted beyond our comprehension.

1. Avoid killing, or harming any living thing.

2. Avoid stealing -- taking what is not yours to take.

3. Avoid sexual irresponsibility, which for m5B4onks and nuns means celibacy.

4. Avoid lying, or any hurtful speech.

5. Avoid alcohol and drugs which diminish clarity of consciousness.

- Buddhist precepts

We lose our Patience

When things don't go our way, we get angry; we can't accept the fact that we have problems. Problems are part of existence, and existence is conflict, but we can't see this, and we believe that existence should be easy. But it's not. So, because we don't understand, we get angry; we try to make existence bow to our wishes. Then we blame others for our problems.

"The Greatest Prayer is patience."

- Buddha

We lose our Resolve

"It is not good to begin many different works, saying 'This looks good; that looks good', touching this, touching that, and not succeeding in any of them. If you do not generate great desires but aim at what is fitting, you can actualize the corresponding potencies and become an expert in that. With success, the power or imprint of that practice is generated."

- The Dalai Lama

We lose our Wisdom

One sign is when, as a society, we begin thinking that we are infallible, that nothing can go wrong anymore because we have control - this is a sure sign that the fall is about to happen - we lose our wisdom.

"The mind is everything. What you think you become."

- Buddha

We lose our Compassion

Our love is only one side of a two-sided coin, the other side be5B4ing hatred. We love ours, but hate theirs. True compassion is unconditional love. Conditional love cannot help but have anger as its companion.

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."

- Buddha

We lose our Truthfulness

Fear drives us to do whatever is necessary to secure ourselves, including lying. The entire world is becoming a used car lot, and we are either the customers being swindled, or the salesman doing the swindling. Whether it is mortgage companies, religious leaders, or politicians. It is all becoming untruthful.

"Three things cannot be hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth."

- Buddha

We lose our Composure

Whatever happens in the world cycle will arise and pass. Governments, movements, and politicians will come and go, but your own actions will remain in your heart eternally.

"The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed."

- Buddha

E. Raymond Rock of Fort Myers, Florida is cofounder and principal teacher at the Southwest Florida Insight Center, http://www.SouthwestFloridaInsightCent474er.com His twenty-eight years of meditation experience has taken him across four continents, including two stopovers in Thailand where he practiced in the remote northeast forests as an ordained Theravada Buddhist monk. His book, A Year to Enlightenment (Career Press/New Page Books) is now available at major bookstores and online retailers. Visit http://www.AYearToEnlightenment.com

Nelson Mandela

How To Enjoy Your Health Care And Social Career

Many professionals in the Health care and social work field become stressed and disillusioned in their work, even though they enjoy helping people.

They are normally also not very well rewarded either financially or in terms of recognition, this allied to the type of work and situations encountered, means that the people involved in this type of industry need the same level of concern help and support that is given to the people in their care, this rarely is the case, and those working in the field end up leaving due to stress, depression and burnout.

It is very easy for those who work in the Health 1C68care field to take on the worries and pressures of the people they are trying to help this happens through resonance (the law of attraction). There are ways to prevent this from happening which everyone can apply.

Everything is comprised of energy and vibrations the higher the energy the more

Positive and happy we are, the lower the energy the more negative and lethargic we are. The people we are with, the way we think and our activities affect our energy levels.

We will be able to take on the energy that lifts us up and deflect the low energy that brings us down. The two extremes of this energy are Love and Fear. Pure Un-conditional Love is the highest energy there is and therefore has access to the multi-dimensional universe we operate in, that means whether we know it or believe it or not we affect everything around us on a local and non-local level.

The more aware we are of how this works in our lives and in the universe the more happy and productive we will be, It will also enable us to achieve goals more effectively with awareness and application.

Judging people by our own standards and worrying about peoples lives and futures over which we have limited control, also brings further low energy, so understanding the energy field we can choose to be affected by our environment or effect our environment. The situation we are in determines the most appropriate action.

I spent a month in a mental health hospital as a patient not a visitor and saw this at first hand, the only way that a lot of professionals can see to get out of this cycle is by caring less and just doing there job, this affects those around them as well and the patients who pick up on this. There is a saying love hurts, if you could create a love of your job that did not hurt you it would go so much better, and you would be creating more than you could ever know.

If you are interested in finding out more or want to apply these principles and more to your life let me know.

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Ascension

Love, Anger and Forgiveness - How To Let Go And Be Emotionally Free Once And For All

Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites,16D3 and in many ways they are. You may be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be fully understood before you can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free.

It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, you just don't want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to understand.

Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same

Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:

-Judgment

-The "one-up" position

-Dishonoring to yourself

When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation or plight, you are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.

Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.

Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:

-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior.

-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results.

Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:

-Power

-Release

-Letting go

-No more victim position

-Operating in a container of love

Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for yourself and/or another person.

Understanding Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here are some common misconceptions:

-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled

-It is possible to be without anger completely

-It is wrong to be angry

-To be angry means to be out of control

-Anger is the same thing as aggression

-When a person is angry that means they are not safe to be around

These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger. Healthy anger is:

-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed

-A protective emotion

-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes

-Fuel for effective action

Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy, appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's the bottom line on healthy anger:

Healthy anger fuels effective action!

Understanding True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that? Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind, and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally, your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about forgiveness:

-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind

-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete

-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven

-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoeryou dont have that kind of power

-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountableeveryone is accountable whether you forgive or not

-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay

-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive

-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds

-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger

-Forgiveness is for you

-Forgiveness is good for your health

-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your breathing is deep and easywhile you visualize the wrong5A8doer and say, "I accept you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind and body."

Your body will tell you if the forgiveness is complete.

Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom

-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions

-Do not accept blame for anything

-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them

-Do not blame anybody for anything

Here are some thoughts to consider about love:

-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions

-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature

-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence

-Conditional love is not really loveit is more about control

-The only real love is unconditional love

-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you unconditionally

-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love

Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.

The greatest of these is love.

William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker and president of the Institute for Personal and Professional Development. As the originator of theGoodfinding audio program, newsletter and website, he has also been on the faculty of the Wellness Program at Cooper Aerobics Center for fifteen years. He has 34 years of experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships.

Get free information, watch videos and purchase books, CDs and downloads at http://www.Goodfinding.com.

Deepak Chopra